Thoughts on not having a wedding

September 20, 2017

I've been married for two years, and in that time there have been a few regrets: regret for not communicating more thoroughly in certain situations, regret for not intentionally taking more time out of the day to spend nurturing our union, regret for things that have been said out of anger, et cetera, et cetera. The kind of things that generally disrupt the quality of any romantic relationship but can be used as a tool for growth. Thankfully, despite these things, I can still confidently say I 100% married my best friend; I married someone with whom I look forward to spending the rest of my life. 

There are many people who live by the "no regrets" motto, but everyone has things from our past that we'd do differently, and that's all a regret boils down to. There's nothing wrong with regretfulness in my opinion. I think it keeps us empathetic and makes us more thoughtful with our actions, so I don't live by that motto. If anything, I live by the "less regrets" school of thought.

That being said... When it comes to my marriage, there is one thing I don't think I'll ever regret: not having a wedding.

Netflix Titles that Pleasantly Surprise (The Horror Section)

September 18, 2017

[It's my 5th time sharing a post like this, so I figured it was time for a proper graphic.]

My last Netflix Recommendation post was Christmas-themed. This one will fittingly be horror-themed, since we're now in the midst of 'Scream Fest' (that time of year when a bunch of horror movies are released in succession). So far we've seen the release of Annabelle: CreationIT, and Mother!, and Jeeper's Creepers 3, Jigsaw, and another installment of The Purge series will soon be coming down the pipe.

Scary movies aren't for everyone. I get it. Nobody in my inner circle willingly goes to see horror films with me - it always takes some coercion, and while I have absolutely no problem going to the movies solo, sometimes I prefer to experience the thrill with a friend.

I also have no problem experiencing the thrill in the comfort of my own home, which is where Netflix comes to the rescue. I've seen almost all the top movies in the horror section of the site, even some of those b-list titles that look kinda sketchy or are a low-budget dupe of a popular big-budget option. I'll watch those.

This is why I can confidently share the picks below, because I often click on the obscure title expecting very little, but sometimes... sometimes... they pleasantly surprise. Another thing about these? They're the least "scary" of the ones I've watched recently, so even if you're not a fan of the genre, you might still enjoy them. Maybe.

At your own risk.

Ten lists for today

September 15, 2017

These kinds of posts aren't that popular anymore, but when read I these lists on Charlotte's blog (using google translate since it's written in Swedish), I got inspired. This is one of those posts I'll re-read years later and remember how I felt and where I was in life, and they also show how much about my personality has or hasn't changed over time.

And so, here are ten lists for today, September 15, 2017.

10 Favorites

Color: white
Food: tacos (is this even a proper blog post if i don't mention tacos at least once???)

The little things

September 6, 2017

Just sharing a list of things I've been super grateful for lately:

Crooked Tree Cafe

September 4, 2017 Marietta, GA

The was a cafe
open only 'til three
just north of the city
named Crooked Tree...

Things you really need to be beautiful

September 1, 2017

If there is one qualm I have with any major industry it's the one that focuses on all things "beauty."

Goodbye August

August 31, 2017

Starting this post off with a gratuitous photo set of myself.

Almost Autumn

August 24, 2017

Summer will always be the number one season in my heart. Always.

I get to visit the beach, I get to celebrate my birthday, I get to soak up some sun, I get to take walks later in the evening since the daylight lasts longer, I get to eat good barbecue,  I get to try all the new rosé that has debuted for the season... Summer has historically been the personal start of a 'new year' for me - partly because it's when I turn another year older, but also because I always enter fall feeling refreshed and changed in some way.

Change is in the air
This past month I've been feeling so grateful - more than usual - for everything in my life, good and bad, the struggles and the victories (there have been much of both). I got into my car to drive to work last week and thought thank you, God, for this life of mine. It's not necessarily a new feeling, but it's been more frequent than usual which makes it feel like a change. 

Mini Coconut Flour Pizza Bites

August 11, 2017

Bowl Lab

August 10, 2017 Vinings, GA

More photos from July

August 8, 2017

It's Only Frickin' Tuesday.

Andy Warhol x High Museum

August 7, 2017 Midtown, Atlanta

Paws Atlanta

August 3, 2017 Decatur, GA

I had the chance to volunteer at Paws Atlanta last week, and even though it was hot and uncomfortable and the mosquitoes feasted on my arms for lunch, I had thee best time hanging out with the pups.

Paws is one oldest and last remaining no-kill shelters in the state of Georgia. They get dogs and cats dropped at their front door every day, and no matter the cost, they provide food, shelter and veterinary care for every pet that comes through their door. 

Freckled & Blue

August 2, 2017 Marietta, GA

Goodbye July

July 31, 2017 Home

Enjoyed a mini beach getaway and came home to some fresh blooms in the backyard.
Saw an old friend take the leap into a new adventure with the love of her life.
Did some thrifting and walked away with a whole new summer wardrobe for less than $20.
Celebrated five months of keeping my first plant alive by buying a new one for the fireplace mantel.

The Halo Top Movement

July 24, 2017

Ok, where do I begin...

Last time I posted about Halo Top, I mentioned how the texture was terrible and the flavor was weak. It left a bad taste in my mouth - pun intended - and I was ready to write it off completely until I tried mixing it into my smoothie. I found a way to make it work, but for a $5 pint of ice cream, I shouldn't have to find a way to make it work. It should just work, straight from the container.

Still, more and more people continue to rave about it. My bad review was really the only one I could find, which made me think maybe I needed to try another flavor. 

So, I tried two.

recipes i've tried and modified

July 17, 2017

I'm playing around with a new series here that's all about the recipes I've tried and modified and how they turned out, but I need to remember to snap a photo of the finished product before digging into my meal. I've included a list at the bottom of this post of meals that will likely get their own feature here in the near future, because I love sharing a good recipe.

Today, however, I just sharing a few food pictures in my phone. The greens theme continues, for the most part.

we filled our hearts

July 13, 2017 Amelia Island, Florida

There are some vacations made for letting go of yourself and others are made for finding yourself again; this vacation was made for both. 

sweet charlie's

July 3, 2017 Buckhead, Atlanta

I've had rolled ice cream on my foodie to-try list for a few months now. This weekend, I made it happen.

May I present... the process, in succession, in photos:

july wallpapers

July 1, 2017

Last month, when I was making a wallpaper for June, I went ahead and made a coupe for July too. So let's ring in the month properly. With more download files.

reading a book is consumption of art

June 22, 2017

The past year or so has been hit or miss when it comes to my book selections.

I get recommendations from any and every where: Instagram, Youtube (BookTube), blogs, word of mouth, what other people are silently reading at coffeeshops, anywhere. Lately, though, if a story doesn't catch me in the first couple chapters, I put it down and/or return it to my local library. As far as I'm concerned, reading a book is consumption of art, the same way walking through MoMA or going to a play is. It's supposed to grab your attention. When you're in a museum, you leisurely browse and walk past various pieces before one of them makes you stop and stare. With books, I'm always looking for something that makes me stop and stare, one that quickly makes an impression and all but swallows me whole by the end. Quite a big ask for a novel.

Below are the books that have recently evaded my DNF (did not finish) list. I'm sharing the goodness since summer is here, and I always love a good read during my summer travels.

summer begins

June 21, 2017

There has always been something vividly appealing about the summer solstice.

heart blanche

June 13, 2017

It seems as though i'm late to this party.

this past week...

June 12, 2017

june wallpaper

June 1, 2017

June is here! (Duh)

I was using this wallpaper from The Everygirl for the month of May, and I loved it. Their June wallpaper options though? Meh. So I decided to make my own and share it here. Because sometimes we don't know what day it is until we look at our computer (or phone).

This one's all delicate and feminine, which is off-kilter for my style, but I liked the similar image I used in my Mother's Day post so much that I'm just gonna go with it.

Download the wallpaper here. Happy June!

beetlecat brunch

May 22, 2017 Inman Park, Atlanta

I had a chat recently about how I don't eat out much these days, and it's true. Lately, if there's something I'm craving, I just make it myself: it's better for my budget, it's generally better for my health, and I can tweak and tailor the ingredients. Win, win, win. However, there are two exceptions: tacos (duh, who didn't see this coming) and brunch.

Ahhhh, brunch. Glorious brunch. There is no better meal in all the land. 

This past Saturday was gorgeous, the kind of day that audibly calls for a good brunch. I dragged the mister all the way across town to Inman Park, to a spot that's been bookmarked on my Yelp list for a few months: BeetleCat.

During normal business hours, BeetleCat is a seafood restaurant. I'm not a seafood fan, so normally, I'd dismiss this place without a second thought. However, two words made me do a double take - DONUT BRUNCH. 


May 15, 2017

Future self,

This post is back-dated, since you were too busy to post on your actual anniversary. You posted this the day after instead. But that's okay, because like I said, you were busy.

good motherly nurturing

May 12, 2017

There's this weird phenomenon that happens, as a woman, when you get married: everyone starts checking for your uterus.

It's like God flips a switch in the brains of each person who knows you, which prompts them to ask when are you guys having kids? or something along those lines. Just last week, I had a friend who I hadn't seen in about a month or so text me out the blue and ask are you pregnant? She didn't even try to bury the lede with a what's up, or hey, what's new... just a hard and fast are you pregnant? She's not the only one who does this. It's gotten to the point where I casually mention that I'm not pregnant when I'm catching up with friends.

In case it's not already clear enough, this is not a post in which I announce my pregnancy. There is no pregnancy happening at this time in The Active Spirit land. There is, however, pregnancy happening all around me. Two of my closest friends from school announced their pregnancies around the same time, and my dear niece is also pregnant. Everyone is overjoyed, including me, and all three ladies are due roughly around the same time, so I'll be getting lots of newborn snuggles in towards the end of summer / early fall.

In general though, I've just had lots of thoughts swirling in my head around the idea of motherhood. Probably thanks, in part, to all the HCG in the air and also because I'm still chewing on the central themes in The Mothers, by Britt Bennett. I think I can safely say it's the best book I'll read all year, which sucks since it's only May.

But in the spirit of Mother's Day, I thought I'd share some thoughts.

(more) views

May 8, 2017

Well, well, well. Look who decided to show up with a new post today. I've been making an effort to take more pictures of my everyday run-of-the-mill routine, i.e. my life at the moment, but all I have to show for the last few weeks are the few photos above.

Views around town because commuting is <sarcasm font> fun </sarcasm font>
Rainy afternoons that render our new patio set useless
The dog, who is turning her nose up, probably because I made her get her paws wet

solid views

April 21, 2017 Vinings, GA

I've been trying to make it a point to take more photos during the week, of anything that's outside of my normal wake-work-sleep routine, but i've been failing. Mainly because i haven't been going anywhere besides work and home and maybe to the grocery store for that one ingredient i forgot to grab on the weekend, but also because it's tough getting into the habit of taking pictures all the time. (maybe that's why i suck at instagram) BUT TODAY. Today I had a team meeting with some solid views of downtown Atlanta way in the distance, so here are my snaps.

angelic perfection

April 13, 2017 Buckhead, Atlanta

Jojo's concert here in Atlanta was this past Saturday, and I'm just too little too late for this post (get it? GET IT?!). 

Like a slacker fan, it's taken me five whole days to post some photos. Because did I really even go if I don't post the photos?

the edges but never the heart

April 3, 2017 Decatur, GA

I found this after the fire today. This is what I was feeling after I saw this.

No matter how people try to destroy the word of God or what God has for your it can never be done. They may get the edges but never the heart of what God has for you. So stand strong in your faith and remember through Him we can do it all.

Photo of the fire here. 
J sent this to me while he was at work last week. They were putting out an apartment fire, and it got pretty bad before they were finally able to extinguish all the flames. Most everything was charred to a crisp, but as they were wrapping things up, he came across this Bible that was fully intact; it was burned around the edges, but not a single page was missing. The words above are the thoughts that came to him, which he shared with me, which (with his consent) I'm sharing here. 

Happy Monday :)

for a special man in your life (giveaway closed)

March 27, 2017

So here's the thing about watches. I don't like them.

I love they way they look displayed on shelves, on other people, and in my jewelry box, but when I put them on my actual wrist, those gushy feelings don't translate. It may be more related to the fact that I just don't like the way any kind of accessories look on my wrist, since even the Apple Watch didn't appeal to me. The only time I ever wear a watch these days is when I have some important meeting/interview/presentation/etc and I want to cover my wrist tattoo in hopes of looking as professional and put-together as possible. Even then, I take off the watch as soon as the meeting is over. 

It's strange. Watches have been such an important wardrobe staple for so many years, and even as the big tech companies release fancier high-tech versions, the classic timepiece proves to be timeless. The best ones do nothing but tell you what time of day it is, and that kind of simplicity will never go out of style. They're just not my style.

So when Jord reached out to me for a collaboration and giveaway, I was all set to decline (as i've done in the past with other brands before them), but I clicked on the link to their website out of curiosity.

*Cue ooooo's and ahhhhh's* (and/or jump to the bottom for the giveaway details)

not even a dab of concealer needed

March 20, 2017

The quest for not even a dab of concealer needed skin continues...


March 15, 2017 New Orleans, LA

Things I learned during my first visit to New Orleans:

1. It's its own little pocket of culture. The city as a whole has an atmosphere that is unlike anywhere I've ever been. I get why people love it.
2. "Ay baybeh" will never sound as adorable coming from a man who was born and raised in NOLA.
3. Catching an Uber to or from anywhere in/near the French Quarter will take just as long as it would take you to walk there. Save your coin.
4. Because of number 3, even if you're not trying, you will get anywhere from 18,000 to 20,000 steps in a single day.
5. Bacon and Shrimp Bloody Mary's are a thing.

Cheers to many more years

March 5, 2017 Poncey-Highland, Atlanta

I'm wishing a very happy birthday to a very special lady today! A group of us all got together for brunch, and what I expected to be an afternoon of loooooots of picture taking turned into a more finely intimate chit chat among loved ones, so here are two of the photos I managed to snap. One of empty plates and glasses half full, and another of the birthday girl, Laura, and her dad - a man who's celebrating are few wonderful things this weekend.

Cheers to many more years!

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