For someone who takes so many photos with her phone, I'm a terrible instagram-er. My heart's not in it like it used to be. The memes, quotes, selfies and videos have taken over, and the stuff I like to post just don't seem to fit the mold anymore. Ah, well. That's why I have this space. To have and to hold as long as my camera shall live.




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There are articles on this subject already, and most of them consist of phrases like “assess the situation,” “apologize,” “correct the problem” and other generic ideas that make you say duh. From my experience, men need things spelled out for them - explicitly. You can tell them to "correct the problem," but it seems to be the case that unless we explain how to do it and/or give specific ways to do it, they probably won’t get it. And that’s okay. That's why I'm here. ;)

I don’t write this to discredit any man's mental capabilities, but there’s a reason us women are considered so confusing. We’re not. I promise. Sometimes men really don’t have a clue. Sometimes the entire male population just seems like one, big disappointment to us ladies,, and sometimes we really do sit around watching Waiting to Exhale, eating ice cream and talking crap about the gentlemen in our life.

When a man messes up with a woman he really cares about, whether she's his wife, girlfriend, friend, mother, sister, etc, it’s important to make it right. It’s worth mentioning that this goes both ways. I am not holding men to a higher standard than us women, but this post is for all the kind Sirs out there.

Generally speaking, the amount of effort required to make things right is directly correlated to the severity of the offense. If you forgot her birthday or got with your hand in the proverbial cookie jar, a half bouquet of carnations from your local grocery store will not suffice.

Every woman is different, though. Step one is a given all the way around, but the others will need to be tweaked according to your unique lady and your unique situation. These tips should be used as a template for success, not as an exact formula.



This man's voice...

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I’ve been doing some thinking about soulmates. 

I just sat and stared at that sentence for a few minutes, as I’m not quite sure where I’m going with this post, so please bear with me. 




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