tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6154604354357015024.post502463145928246447..comments2024-02-06T09:59:26.600-05:00Comments on the active spirit.: I changed my last name for my husbandChantelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18067983623857538831noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6154604354357015024.post-5756764488936731342019-02-15T16:05:21.237-05:002019-02-15T16:05:21.237-05:00I have a friend who also plans to hyphenate (she&#...I have a friend who also plans to hyphenate (she's already married), but the idea of going to all these different gov't buildings and submitting all the paperwork is what's holding up the process. It's a lot! I love the history in your maiden name, though. That's definitely a good reason to hold on to it.Chantelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18067983623857538831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6154604354357015024.post-33460776633846452532019-02-14T15:11:40.449-05:002019-02-14T15:11:40.449-05:00I kept my maiden name, planning to hyphenate down ...I kept my maiden name, planning to hyphenate down the line (I still haven't after 5 years). I wonder sometimes about having a different last name than our daughter. I actually wish I had insisted on hyphenating for her, but it's kinda late now. <br /><br />Interestingly enough, my maiden name is actually my maternal grandmother's last name. We come from a tribe (Ogoni) in Nigeria, where if there are no sons in a family, the first daughter assumes the role of the first son, and all her children get HER last name, not her husband's. <br /><br /><a href="http://www.berrydakara.com" rel="nofollow">Berry Dakara Blog</a>Berry Dakarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12228332437019976580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6154604354357015024.post-90574640364465001732019-01-29T13:13:50.851-05:002019-01-29T13:13:50.851-05:00I loved my first and last name together as well! I...I loved my first and last name together as well! I even considered making my maiden name a second middle name just so I could hang on to it. In the end, though, I just wasn't as attached as I thought I'd be. At the end of the day I really felt like it was just a name, but I know not everyone is as nonchalant about the idea. Either way, the decision shouldn't be so heavily scrutinized IMO. If a woman wants to keep her maiden name, cool. If she wants to take her partner's (male) last name, cool. NBD! Not every decision has to be a political statement, ya' know??Chantelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18067983623857538831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6154604354357015024.post-82892107386633654432019-01-28T23:15:48.852-05:002019-01-28T23:15:48.852-05:00I'm not all that bothered by whether or not pe...I'm not all that bothered by whether or not people change, add to, or keep their last name. The only thing I definitely feel about it is that whatever choice is made, the person should make that choice for themself and not have it forced on them! I love that you wanted to change your last name and you did :) // My mom kept her maiden name but I don't actually know what her thought process for that was. // Presently, I quite like the ring of my first and last name together. If my future husband's last name sounds weird with my first name, I think I'll keep my last name ;P But who knows, maybe I'll feel differently when I'm in love! -Audrey | <a href="http://brunchataudreys.com" rel="nofollow">Brunch at Audrey's</a>Audreyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14049606390899743914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6154604354357015024.post-34895616884232355672019-01-18T15:03:48.362-05:002019-01-18T15:03:48.362-05:00Yes! People have made such hoopla about women chan...Yes! People have made such hoopla about women changing their last names in recent years, and sometimes it's as simple as "I just wanted to." Thank you for reading, Kate! ❤️Chantelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18067983623857538831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6154604354357015024.post-67683948812460436022019-01-18T12:56:39.956-05:002019-01-18T12:56:39.956-05:00I love this post! I'm a liberal feminist, &...I love this post! I'm a liberal feminist, & I, too, changed my last name for a number of reasons, all personal & important to me. Still, I was shocked by how many people told me they were surprised I'd changed my last name because I didn't seem like the "type." What does that mean?! I can still be a liberal feminist who took my husband's name out of love & a want for family unity - & I didn't like my maiden name that much anyway! Thanks for sharing. Kate @ GreatestEscapist.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15697369149059945943noreply@blogger.com